I’ve been trying (unsuccessfully) to get Jenna to grip a pencil, crayon or marker correctly, or at least a little closer to correctly than she currently does with her toddler “fist grip.” She’ll just be turning three in January, so we’ve got lots of time to work on this and I’m not really worried. But, whenever I try to model a correct grip or gently correct hers, she gets frustrated, so I usually just back off.
I recently came across something called a Pencil Gripper that trains little fingers into the correct placement for writing (not to be confused with a simple grip cushion). The company says that they also prevent “over-gripping” and that “when the fingers are relaxed, the brain relaxes too.” They’re designed for either right or left-handedness and come as a set of three in either primary or pastel colors. I think they sound like they’re worth a try.